Pain in your neck. If you feel pain in your neck, you may have trouble forgiving others or yourself. If you’re feeling neck pain, consider the things you love about people.

“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.” ―Sarah Dessen

#soulmate

The definition of happiness and the determination of the means for achieving it, belongs to you and YOU ONLY.

To remove complains, blames , judgements from life experience your own past life for your real transformation.....dr.vandana raghuvanshi, past life therapist Chandigarh

SOUL MATE... Read some where, Like to share..... It is said that even before you were born, the name of your spiritual half has been determined. Each soul has a … your soulmate. Your true spiritual soulmate is the person who is intended to help you “complete yourself.” Jerry McGuire was right – soul mates complete each other. A person is unable to complete his mission in life alone. Everyone needs someone to help them become a better person. This is not always a blissful experience. Being in an honest, sincere, and committed soulmate relationship helps you to become a better version of yourself. You have to push yourself beyond your comfort zone, beyond your limits to find your better self. Even though we tend to think of soul mates as a symbiotic union; soulmate relationships can be rough at the beginning. They can be like two jagged edged puzzle pieces trying to click into place. Sometimes it looks like you do not fit together at all, but soon after a little bit of twisting, turning, and flipping the pieces around, you feel the moment of the perfect click. It’s a feeling deep in your soul, that says, this is the right one. Often soulmates appear in disguise. You might not be physically attracted to each other when you first meet, but there is a mysterious force pushing you forward that tells you this is “the right one” for you. You know you’ve found your soulmate when: 1. You just know it. Something deep inside tells you . It’s as if there is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously expected and to give of yourself completely. 2. You have crossed paths before. Soulmates have met each other and a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. Yet you never met until the time was right. 3. Your souls meet at the right time. Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything. 4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place. Being quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in the car, there’s a quiet peace between you. 5. You can hear the other person’s silent thoughts. With soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally expressed. 6. You feel each other’s pain. You stand in each other’s shoes. You know each other so well, that the second he walks in the door, you can tell how his day was. You feel each other’s feelings: sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each other’s happiness and joy. 7. You know each other’s flaws and the benefits in them. Yes, it’s true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well as a negative side. It’s the task of each person to always look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to each flaw.. 8. You share the same life goals. You’re both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end result. 9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation. Conversations can be challenging. Expressing concerns or attempting to make decisions is uncomfortable. Soulmates know that if they join together, they will be able to work it out. 10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time. You respect each other’s need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your time alone is special. 11. You don’t experience jealousy. You are secure knowing that you are the only one. 12. You respect each other’s differences and opinions. Often soulmates are polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences. 13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with divorce. Of course you feel the anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates aren’t nasty, hurtful, or punitive. 14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy. Giving can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships. But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each other happy. 15. You know how to apologize. It’s not easy to say “I’m sorry” or admit that you did something that hurt the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words cause harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have caused. 16. You would marry each other again. You know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in your partner. 17. You complete each other. No person is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates complete each other. It’s the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be the extrovert, while one is the introvert. One may be social, while the other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces. 18. Being in each other’s arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety. There is no place you’d rather be at the end of the day but in each other’s arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the silent, blissful union of two souls together. Two souls that were meant to be together eternally.

योगवाशिष्ठ ग्रन्थ को महारामायण के नाम से भी जाना जाता है क्यों कि इसमेें महर्षि वाशिष्ठ ने भगवान् श्री राम को जीवन विज्ञान और योग विज्ञान की शिक्षा दी है ।उसमें ये बताया है कि चिज्जड़ ग्रंथि के टूटने पर सभी चक्र जाग्रत हो जाते हैं ।चिज्जड़ यानि (चित्त + जड़) अर्थात् चेतना का जड़ से पृथकता का अनुभव होना ।यही बात योगदर्शन के विभुतिपाद में वर्णित की गयी है ।अब चेतना की जड़ता से पृथकता कैसे हो इसके लिए एक विधि है , जो लिपिबद्ध नहीं की जा सकती ।योग दर्शन की किसी भी जिज्ञासा के लिए आपका स्वागत है ।......by Dr. Surendra Nath Panch

योग निद्रा ------------------- योग निद्रा एक परम् उत्कृष्ट निद्रा है, इसका अभ्यास हो जाने से मनुष्य के त्रिदोष सम्यक अवस्था में हो जाते हैं और व्यक्ति आदर्श स्वास्थ्य एवम् सौन्दर्य से युक्त रहता हुआ अतिशय सुखी, शांत ,प्रसन्न और आनंदित रहता है । योग निद्रा के लाभ =========== 1. योग निद्रा के अभ्यास से शारीरिक, मानसिक और भावनात्मक तनाव समाप्त हो जाते हैं । 2. एक - एक अंग की निष्क्रियता दूर होकर , उसमें नई चेतना और नई शक्ति का संचार होता है । 3. शरीर, मन और मस्तिष्क के रोग जैसे :- तनाव , मधुमेह , रक्तचाप , ह्रदय रोग तथा कमजोरी आदि से छुटकारा मिल जाता है । 4. योग निद्रा के अभ्यास से मन पर नियंत्रण होने लगता है । मन को स्थिर करके बहुत सी शक्तियां और सिद्धियाँ प्राप्त हो जातीं हैं । 5. योग निद्रा के अभ्यास से व्यक्ति में आलस्य नहीं रहता है, वह सदा सक्रिय रहता है । कार्य करने की शक्ति उसमें बराबर बनी रहती है । 6. योग निद्रा अंतर्मन में उतरने की सर्वसुलभ क्रिया है । इसके अभ्यास से व्यक्ति को निर्मलता , निश्चलता एवम् शांति प्राप्त होती है तथा मन , मष्तिष्क और स्नायु मंडल को शान्ति एवं शक्ति मिलती है । 7. इसके अभ्यास से व्यक्ति जहाँ अंतर्मन में गहरे उतर सकता है, वहीं साधना की ऊंची उड़ान भी भर सकता है और तन-मन में अद् भुद ताजगी एवं आनंद का अनुभव कर सकता है । 8. अभ्यास परिपक्व होने पर बहुत से रहस्य व्यक्ति के समक्ष उजागर होते जाते हैं । @सावधान +++++++ यह योग निद्रा पूर्णत: लेखनीबद्ध नहीं हो सकती है । ये एक अत्यंत ही प्रभावशाली योग है , इसे किसी विशेषज्ञ के निर्देशन में सीख लेना चाहिए ।।

हर विचार एक बीज है – Every Thought is a Seed| हमारे पास दो तरह के बीज होते है सकारात्मक विचार (Positive) एंव नकारात्मक विचार (Negative Thoughts) है, जो आगे चलकर हमारे दृष्टिकोण एंव व्यवहार रुपी पेड़ का निर्धारण करता है| हम जैसा सोचते है वैसा बन जाते है (What we think we become) इसलिए कहा जाता है कि जैसे हमारे विचार होते है वैसा ही हमारा आचरण होता है| यह हम पर निर्भर करता है कि हम अपने दिमाग रुपी जमीन में कौनसा बीज बौते है| थोड़ी सी चेतना एंव सावधानी से हम कांटेदार पेड़ को महकते फूलों के पेड़ में बदल सकते है|

Success is a child , while luck and hard work are the parents .So , it is difficult a question as to which of the [ parent ] is more resposnsilble for the issue ? To conclude ..for success hard work and luck both are required.

क्रोधा्द्भावति सम्मोह: सम्मोहात्स्म्रुतिविभ्र्म: । स्मृतिभ्रंशाद् बुद्धिनाशो बुद्धिनाशात्प्रणश्यति ।। श्रीमद, भागवत् गीता अध्याय -2 श्लोक सं -63 , अर्थात् क्रोध से अत्यंत मूढ़ भाव उत्पन्न हो जाता है, मूढ़ भाव से स्मृति में भ्रम हो जाता है, स्मृति भ्रम हो जाने से बुद्धि अर्थात् ज्ञानशक्ति का नाश हो जाता है और बुद्धि का नाश हो जाने से यह पुरुष अपनी स्थिति से गिर जाता है । लगता है डॉ वंदना जी आप आधुनिक तरीके से हम लोगों को गीता के मार्ग पर चलने की प्रेरणा दे रही है ।आपने बड़े ही सुन्दर ढंग से गीता के इस सारांश को नवीनता का रूप दिया है ।साधुबाद आपको ,सद्,मार्ग की ओर संकेत देने के लिए ।.....by Prof. surendra nath panch ji

Thinking...Determines your attitude... Disciplining ...is practicing good habit slowly.. Listening...is putting yourself in others shoes....

Sweat and Tears... Both sweat and tears are wet and salty, but they render a different result. Tears will get you only sympathy but Sweat will get you change...

Enthusiasm...."There are no ordinary people ...and ordinary jobs...For enthusiasm can transform the most dreary obligation into a crusade , and life should be a crusade."....Vincent Norman Peale.

The art of happy living..... Be true to youself...Accept your limitation. Live joyfully...You have the right to be happy. Learn the healing power of Forgiveness. Forgive your mistakes...Don't hold a grudge against yourself.

"Love is not finding someone to live with.It's finding someone you can't live without"......Rafael Ortiz

Everything in God's Creation proves God exists - it's perfection , in organization , it's harmony, it's unity and balance

DR.BRIAN WEISS...

http://www.brianweiss.com/

Talent and Tact.... Talent is Power, Tact is skill... Talent is wait, Tact is momentum... Talent knows what to do, Tact knows how to do... Talent makes man/women respectable, Tact makes him/her acceptable... Talent is pleased that it ought to hsve succeeded, Tact is delighted it has succeeded....

It’s important when we’re facing something that’s really hard for us, whether it’s doing taxes, paying bills, or visiting a challenging relative, that we lovingly support ourselves through the process. The more supported we feel, the easier it is to open our minds to the idea that we could change our way of looking at the situation. In truth, most of the chores we don’t like doing are intimately intertwined with our blessings. When we remember this, we feel gratitude, which makes it hard to stay in a dark mood. We can shift our attitude by considering how much we love our home as we clean it and how lucky we are to have a roof over our head. Any task can be transformed from a burden to a necessary aspect of caring for something we love. All we have to do is shift our perspective, and our attitude follows shortly behind.

Read somewhere ,like to share.... Energy Vampires: How to Escape Toxic people are not only energetically draining, they have a direct effect on our success & happiness. Let’s face it, we are all vibrational beings. Surrounding ourselves with high vibrational, positive people, propels us onward & upward, raising the bar in life for us all to match. When we slum it around low vibrational, negative people, we’re pulled down. As my dad used to say, “water seeks it’s own level.” Being a a loving compassionate person has nothing to do with slumming it vibrationally. Where this dynamic sneaks up on us is in the realm of friendships. As we mature & experience life, we naturally grow & evolve, which means that our friendships must also adapt. Sadly, sometimes it’s necessary to call a weed a weed in the garden of our friendships & do a little pruning. While it’s admirable to have life long friendships, the truth is, people change. Not everyone wants to take responsibility for the life they’re living & when toxic friends aren’t happy, they tend to pull everyone around them down too. This isn’t about the friend that goes through a rough spot & needs some extra time & attention, it’s about the overview of your entire friendship. Has it been a back and forth volley or a one way serve? If you have a huge heart & you’re a loving person, it’s easy to ignore the signs, but toxic people are easy to spot once you know what to look for. So ask yourself: 1. Are you exhausted after spending time with them? Give them an inch and they’ll take nine million miles. You know who I’m talking about. What starts as an innocuous conversation ends with you feeling tired & drained. What happened? A brief conversation with them happened. Spend time at the water cooler sharing small talk & suddenly you’re ready for a nap. Talk to another mom on the school yard for ten minutes and you’re ready to put yourself down for the day. 2. Are you unable to fit a word in edgewise? You know who I’m talking about: the phone call when you find yourself uh huh’ing repeatedly without actually having a conversation. Your friend goes negative on you and suddenly you’re listening to their list of woes in life & acting as a stand in therapist. This isn’t about a friend in need or one going through transition, it’s about those people who talk at you rather than with you - all of the time. Admittedly it can be hard to stay in touch with how you’re feeling as toxic friends can be sneaky and subtle, but when someone wants to complain instead of problem solve, pull out your sword & start trimming your time with them. 3. Speaking of time, are people respecting yours? Are you? Some people will drone on & on even when you’ve said you’re busy and can’t talk right now. In these times a sharper sword is needed. This is your time & ultimately your life, and right now it’s being filled with someone else’s sloppy boundaries. 4. How are you feeling? The biggest tool in your bag IS your body. When you silently scan your body while talking to someone, you’ll either feel relaxed and in the moment, or you’ll be clenching something. If you’re holding your breath and looking desperately for a way to break into their long-winded speech, you are being talked at and sucked dry. This isn’t a sign of a healthy friendship. Time with a healthy friend should leave you smiling, inspired and feeling full and happy. 5. Are you caught in the gossip trap? Gossip might make you feel bonded to a friend, but it’s draining. Participating in gossip wilts your petals faster than any toxic friend could on their own because once you spill their gossip, you’re the one left holding the empty bag feeling terrible. Avoid gossips at all costs by closing the door on people in your life that love to do it. Chances are they will eventually gossip about you anyways, so protect yourself. 6. Do you withhold positive news from them so they aren’t jealous? True friends are happy when your life is going well. Toxic friends are jealous and will compare their own life to yours instead of celebrating your wins. Disrespecting your time, constant negativity, gossiping, complaining rather than problem solving, jealousy, and routinely taking instead of giving are toxic behaviors for which boundaries were invented. Clearing your life of toxic friendships takes courage, but if you trust your heart, time eventually delivers like- minded people into your life. And that my friend, is well worth the wait.

Our thoughts and feelings can so easily be influencing by how we perceive others .If we make a firm choice to always keep a positive vision of those around us , Then we will enjoy better relationships.

I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we're all teachers - if we're willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.......

Read somewhere , like to share... Resolving The Inner Identity Crisis At the present moment in human history, almost every individual has lost the awareness of its real or true self. This has happened very gradually as each individual has progressed in its journey of birth-rebirth & has kept on attaching itself to various different things & as a result losing its sense of self in things that it is not i.e. identifying with things that it is not. In a way it can be said that this took the self far away from itself. This personal, internal identity crisis has led to a universal, external identity crisis, which has resulted in an emotional crisis resulting in peacelessness & sorrow in our inner world as well as in the outer world. This inner identity crisis is the root cause of the multitude of deformed emotions that exist inside us like anger, ego, lust, fear, comparison with others, greed, hatred, low self esteem, dependencies etc. all of which have brought us & keep on bringing us pain. We explain this with an example – suppose you have just constructed a new apartment. While making it & once its ready and you are using it, you have become excessively attached to it i.e. you have started identifying with it. Due to this false identification, the first emotion that gets created inside you is ego. If someone were to criticize the apartment even slightly, you would react immediately with anger. You constantly fear any sort of harm to the apartment. You even compare it with apartments that others possess. You also start looking down at people whose apartment is not as good as yours i.e. you create emotions of hatred for them. If something negative were to happen it, it affects your mental state immediately i.e. your happiness has become dependent on the material possession. Your temporary success along with the recognition that it brings you from others leads to the desire of more success of a similar type i.e. possess some more things - bigger & better, which is nothing but greed etc. The seed of all these incorrect emotions is my over-identification with this newly acquired possession. All of these wouldn’t exist inside me, if my relationship with was one of detachment with it. In this way, we identify with various objects & people in the whole day, which leads to the creation of such emotions inside us. This is how the confusions, complications & problems that exist in our world today & the state of human relationships all over the world, are simply a reflection of our lack of inner clarity about who we are, what we are & where we are heading i.e. a lack of true self-identity. So how do we resolve this internal & external turmoil? There is an original, beautiful self, with characteristics of peace, love & happiness that exists within each one of us, the self from which we have been distanced since a very long time. This is a center full of the spiritual resources of all virtues and powers. Reaching it is a journey of only one second & no distance. By identifying with this inner centre, a centre which is imperishable, unchangeable, constant & even eternal, my self identity becomes strong & stable, as compared to many false identities based on external realities like position, wealth & material possessions which are all perishable & subject to various ups & downs even in one single day, and if we over identify with them, we are bound to experience constant pain & discontentment. This process of true self-identification is not a renunciation or avoidance of the way the outer world is but it is a healing process for your inner world. It is an internal correction process of identification, whereby you rediscover your true self as a complete being full of positive emotions that you always were & you start identifying with it, doing which very easily helps you let go of the wrong identifications. This process is commonly called meditation, the foundation of which is spiritual wisdom. Once this inner work is done, the outer world starts taking the shape of a reflection of that. Resolving the identity crisis first changes the way our internal & external world looks to us, as a result changing the way it works.

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives from birth onward this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

Life is so much more simple than most humans realize. It is not this journey that must be conquered, that must be understood. It is a journey that must be lived, only lived in the present moment day-to-day, here and now. And in the entirety of each moment, there may be feelings from the past, feelings from the future, all kinds of emotions that cannot be explained by the mind. Feeling and allowing those emotions is part of the living, part of the being.

Effective meditation means to gather the positive resources of the inner self & then use them in the outer world. It is important to remain neither too much inside, nor too much outside, but constantly to create a balance between the inner & outer realities. Meditation resembles the cyclic path of energy: going from the inside out & then from the outside in, gathering information, or experiences that we need to reflect on, or understand better. On other occasions, it may be a question of recharging our minds with positivity & peace: we go inside and, with the practice of silence, the battery becomes re-energized.